March 14, 2019 at 04:00AM by CWC
For a very long time, “Self Esteem” by The Offspring was my go-to karaoke song. To spare you a Google of the 1994 banger, the lyrics follow a subject who gets trapped in a toxic relationship because he’s a “sucker with no self-esteem.” Well. Sounds like somebody could have seriously benefitted from some positive affirmations for self-esteem, #amirite?
Regardless of whether or not you specifically relate to that pop-punk relic, it’s very possible that you also aren’t thriving in the self-esteem department. And that’s not your fault—society is largely to blame. Social media provides plenty of comparison traps to scroll through at any given moment, and if your life feels less than picture-perfect (even if it is in an okay, good, or great place), it’s easy to go to bed thinking, “I am not enough, I am not able to succeed, and I am not ever going to get through tomorrow.”
But #realtalk, you are enough, able to succeed, and going to get through tomorrow. One simple way to boost your self-esteem is to embrace simple affirmations and rebrand your “I ams.”
Affirmations rewire your brain into believing in yourself, which is the cornerstone of bolstering your self-confidence. There are many from which you can choose, but if you’re looking for a great place to start, Claire Grieve, a yoga specialist, health coach and wellness expert, is on board with the power of affirmations focused on empowering “I am” statements. “Your thoughts are incredibly powerful and can completely shape your life,” she says. She works to shift her clients “from an ‘I can’t’ to an ‘I can’ attitude” with the following affirmations, and maybe you could try them out, too.
Below, find seven tried-and-true affirmations and the self-esteem-boosting scenarios where you may consider applying them IRL.
1. I am energized.
Really want to hit the snooze button on your alarm again? If you’re dreading a big presentation at work or are unsure that you have the energy to take on a new assignment, this is a good place to start:
2. I am happy.
Some days you’re just…not happy, and that’s okay. If you suffer from depression or another mental-health condition, happiness can be especially hard to will into existence. But if you’re going down a self-pity well because, say, your hot date canceled last-minute to take their cat to the hospital, I have news: That circumstantial experience is not a personal reflection of your worth. In fact, that might simply require the following affirmation:
Tell yourself: “I create my own happiness. I will not worry about things out of my control.”
3. I am positive.
4. I am loved.
5. I am kind.
6. I am motivated.
7. I am healthy.
“I am” affirmations are a good starting point for cultivating the confidence and control building blocks of self-esteem. Of course, it’s a process, but because self-esteem is such an in-your-head issue, starting by shifting your thought process and perspective is key.
Maybe the first time you say “I am,” you won’t be completely sure that you are. But also, maybe with time and repetition, you’ll will yourself into being exactly what you think you are.