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March 17, 2020 at 03:00PM by CWC For me, the idea of going to couples therapy conjures an image similar to that of the opening scene of the 2019 film Marriage Story—that is, two people either crying or yelling at one another in the presence of a professional who’s trying to restore a state of … Continue reading I tried a couples therapy app to ‘train’ my relationship—here’s what I learned

March 12, 2020 at 01:00AM by CWC The subject of my family’s The Bachelor group chat during last night’s season finale was not really focused on who Pilot Pete was going to end up with but rather his mom, Barb. Specifically, how much Barb disliked the woman Peter is in a relationship with and how, … Continue reading If your parents hate your partner, does that seal the fate of your relationship? Therapists weigh in

February 24, 2020 at 01:00PM by CWC When you find out your partner cheated on you, it puts a blurring filter over the entire relationship, muddying up a formerly crisp picture and making everything look worse. You might feel blinded by rage, consumed with sorrow, and left questioning the whole entire relationship. You wonder if … Continue reading 6 relationship traits that show it’s possible and even worthwhile to move past infidelity

February 18, 2020 at 02:00PM by CWC It’s Saturday morning, and I’m waiting in line at REI to buy $80 climbing shoes when I realize something: There’s a very real chance my boyfriend and I are morphing into the same human being. That’s because a year ago, I would have cited my fear of heights … Continue reading I adopted my partner’s favorite hobby as my own—am I losing myself in my relationship?

February 14, 2020 at 06:00PM by CWC It’s inevitable that as our lives evolve and change over time, the relationships that remain constant fixtures within them will as well. If you’re fortunate enough to find a life partner with whom you grow and learn, you’re bound to encounter speed bumps, road blocks, and detours throughout … Continue reading The 7 golden rules of long-term relationship success, from couples of nearly 4 decades

February 12, 2020 at 08:05PM by CWC In news I hope my boyfriend doesn’t read, it turns out that having an optimistic partner can lead to better health outcomes. New research out of Michigan State University, published in the Journal of Personality, found that being in a relationship with an optimist might actually help to … Continue reading The surprising health benefit of being in a relationship with an optimist

February 08, 2020 at 12:00AM by CWC When you first fall in love with someone new there’s a fiery, extraordinarily horny adrenaline rush that makes even a trip to the farmer’s market an erotic experience. But as it grows into a long-term relationship or, y’know, a marriage, that passion simmers down, and the farmer’s market just … Continue reading This ‘Passion Triangle’ quiz shows what’s missing in your long-term relationship

February 07, 2020 at 01:00PM by CWC I could plot out a linear map of the course my life has taken to this point based solely on a handful of close friendships. Even though each pal is a unique snowflake, the retrospective viewpoint I now have has distilled the reality to me that most of … Continue reading There are 3 different friend types, and knowing yours can lead to more fulfilling relationships

February 04, 2020 at 02:00PM by CWC Trust is like a mirror. Depending on how badly it’s broken, you can fix it to an extent, but you’re always going to at least see cracks in the reflection. Sure, I’m paraphrasing Beyoncé and Lady Gaga from the “Telephone” video here, but the sentiment rings still extremely … Continue reading How to get over trust issues so they don’t sour an old or new relationship

January 31, 2020 at 01:00PM by CWC While there are many different personality typologies, each has a primary focus: Myers-Briggs examines how you take in information; enneagram zeros in on your core fears; Gretchen Rubin’s four tendencies reveals how you handle expectations. And another personality indicator, taken by more than a million people each year, … Continue reading More than a million people take this personality test each year to better understand their relationships

January 30, 2020 at 03:00PM by CWC No matter the duration of time you’ve been with your spouse, couples therapy can be a proactive way to target aspects of your marriage that might benefit from some extra attention. But whether you’ve already reached the conclusion that this is the best next step for you and … Continue reading I’m a relationship therapist, and these are 6 the most common questions married people ask me

January 26, 2020 at 04:00PM by CWC I’m a perpetually-single-but-never-actually-single individual who alternately uses my therapist as a professional psychologist, best girlfriend, oracle, dating profile evaluator, horoscope reader, and more when it comes to navigating the dating world. Though I’m ostensibly in therapy to work through past trauma and navigate the anxieties that cripple my … Continue reading I’m a relationship therapist, and this is the most common question single people ask me

January 18, 2020 at 02:00PM by CWC If someone is in a committed, traditionally monogamous relationship and still decides to sleep with someone else, that’s clear and present infidelity. But, what if there is no sex involved in the indiscretion? What if talking to and spending time with another person is as far as the … Continue reading What is emotional cheating and how can I stop it from ruining my relationship?

January 13, 2020 at 04:00PM by CWC No matter how strong a relationship may be, you’re bound to hit a few rough patches along the way. These issues can show up in a number of ways including infidelity, a cycle of being on-again and off-again that feels endless, a lack of fun between the sheets, or … Continue reading How to save a relationship that’s struggling (and when it’s best to let it go)