Online dating closed the coffin on meet-cutes—and that’s really a great thing

August 11, 2019 at 12:04PM by CWC There comes a time in every relationship where you will have to answer the question: “So… how did you guys meet?” It can be tempting to come up with something like, “Oh, my heel got stuck in a manhole cover and a dumpster was rolling down the street … Continue reading Online dating closed the coffin on meet-cutes—and that’s really a great thing

The secret to nailing the biggest online dating day of the year: wear sneakers

January 06, 2019 at 06:56AM If dating apps had a Super Bowl, or an Oscars, or a Mardi Gras … today is that day. According to the data scientists at Hinge, Bumble, OKCupid, and more, Sunday is always the busiest online dating day of the week. (As you try to make sure that next weekend … Continue reading The secret to nailing the biggest online dating day of the year: wear sneakers

The most in-your-face evidence that you’re dating a narcissist

August 08, 2019 at 12:29PM by CWC Whenever I first start dating someone, I tend to romanticize their every action. (“Aw, he used my toothpaste and left a glob in the sink—how cute!”) Once we call it quits, the once rose-colored memories turn black. I can’t believe I’ve overlooked major (and I mean, major) warning … Continue reading The most in-your-face evidence that you’re dating a narcissist

Yep, having to discover that you’re deep in an open relationship sums up the current dating landscape

April 01, 2019 at 03:00AM by CWC When my devastated super-monogamous friend told me that her Bumble hookup had been hiding his open relationship from her, I all but texted “Mazel Tov!” while Taylor Swift’s “Welcome to New York” played in my head. At least in the Big Apple, it seems that only the Bronx … Continue reading Yep, having to discover that you’re deep in an open relationship sums up the current dating landscape

The definitive guide to the best dating apps for finding love and sex (or whatever)

March 08, 2019 at 06:17AM by CWC It’s easy to get overwhelmed by dating apps. The endless stream of matches, messages, gifs, and shirtless selfies is a lot. But the dating burnout can start as early as not knowing which dating app to use in the first place. Tinder? Bumble? Something that connects you with dogs … Continue reading The definitive guide to the best dating apps for finding love and sex (or whatever)

A reason to play nice in dating pool? Literally losing sleep when things don’t end swimmingly

February 08, 2019 at 07:53AM by CWC Even if you really, truly think you mean it when you brazenly text an ex “I’m not losing any sleep over this,” new research suggests that, uh, you may be seriously kidding yourself. A recent study published in Personal Relationships found healthy relationships in your twenties are correlated with better sleep … Continue reading A reason to play nice in dating pool? Literally losing sleep when things don’t end swimmingly

Treating dating like a takeout order is leaving us hungry for more

January 27, 2019 at 08:30AM by CWC When I was 24, in a classic 24-year-old move, I started hooking up with the Tinder Emperor of my borough. His cyber seduction skills checked every box in your list of dating app clichés: We’re talking shirtless selfies, topless pic requests—things I would scoff at (and then hike to Bushwick … Continue reading Treating dating like a takeout order is leaving us hungry for more

I asked my younger coworkers to teach me their dating app secrets—and stumbled upon a whole lot of genius

January 12, 2019 at 08:23AM by CWC Remember the early aughts? As in, Fendi baguettes. Chappelle’s Show. Paris Hilton being a thing (and relatedly, those low-rise jeans that keep threatening to come back). My point is, that was a long time ago. Connect that era to today (or rather, last year) and you’ll understand how … Continue reading I asked my younger coworkers to teach me their dating app secrets—and stumbled upon a whole lot of genius

Tinder’s 2018 review is just more proof that modern dating is a nightmare

December 06, 2018 at 11:06AM Modern dating is a hellscape and no one can convince me otherwise. There’s a reason that I’ve been in several non-relationships, encountered more fuccbois than any person should have to stomach, and have an arsenal of excuses to leave a date at a moment’s notice. It’s because dating in 2018 … Continue reading Tinder’s 2018 review is just more proof that modern dating is a nightmare

3 friends tried text therapy for 4 months and are publishing the sessions online—here, they explain why

December 04, 2018 at 09:29AM The golden rules of friendship go something like this: You never miss the opportunity for a shared eye roll, you gas each other up every chance you get, and (above all) you don’t shy away from sharing the hardest parts of being human. In early 2018, Akilah Hughes (a YouTuber and comedian), Robyn … Continue reading 3 friends tried text therapy for 4 months and are publishing the sessions online—here, they explain why

Dating someone with anxiety? Here’s a cheat sheet for how to be effectively supportive

October 18, 2018 at 06:51AM I, along with 6.8 million American adults, have generalized anxiety disorder, and it’s not going away anytime soon—in fact, I imagine it’ll always be part of who I am. I take medication for it, and while some days I feel in control, on other days it controls me. Since it’s … Continue reading Dating someone with anxiety? Here’s a cheat sheet for how to be effectively supportive

Dating in your 30s just feels different—here’s how to find what you’re looking for

September 29, 2018 at 07:39AM Dating in your 20s is totally different than dating in your 30s. When you’re a twenty-something, it’s all about having fun. You’re more carefree; you’re not really looking for anything serious. In your 30s, however, everything changes. You’re not about dating just for the sake of dating—who has time for … Continue reading Dating in your 30s just feels different—here’s how to find what you’re looking for

Demisexuality is the cousin of asexuality that includes the experience of attraction

August 01, 2019 at 08:11AM by CWC Many who are navigating the current landscape of dating would likely agree that the new order of operations includes intimacy and sex more toward the front end of getting to know one another. And if sex on a first date or anywhere near the beginning of a relationship … Continue reading Demisexuality is the cousin of asexuality that includes the experience of attraction

How to fall in love—even in the age of ghosting and orbiting—according to the pros

July 23, 2019 at 04:00PM by CWC Seth and Summer. Jack and Rose. Noah and Ali. Each of us have one pop-culture power couple in mind that made us believe in love—the type of love that would make you stand on a coffee cart and profess it, sacrifice your seat on a life boat (although, … Continue reading How to fall in love—even in the age of ghosting and orbiting—according to the pros

The science of why crushes at any age are like a roller-coaster: fun, young-feeling, and terrifying

July 06, 2019 at 10:00AM by CWC I tend to develop crushes quickly. They come into my sphere with a vengeance, basically turning my life into the Taylor Swift Me! music video: bright and colorful and dramatic as hell. Just the other week, a crush hit me out of nowhere. I was replaying every interaction, … Continue reading The science of why crushes at any age are like a roller-coaster: fun, young-feeling, and terrifying

Help! My new S.O. hates that my ex is in my old photos on social media

April 26, 2019 at 03:00PM by CWC It’s stupid, but it happens: Your current main squeeze is jealous of an ex haunting your old Instagrams, and you refuse to go on a deleting spree. It’s a tale as old as, like, 2005, when you first put your fling in the number-one slot of your Myspace … Continue reading Help! My new S.O. hates that my ex is in my old photos on social media

6 LGBTQ-matchmaker approved ways to find queer-positive love offline, IRL

April 11, 2019 at 06:00AM by CWC A recent study, using nationally representative data, of how people in the United States meet romantic partners found that 65 percent of LGBTQ+ couples meet online (whereas, for perspective, the same is true for only 39 percent of heterosexual couples). And the stat, says one prominent inclusive matchmaker, … Continue reading 6 LGBTQ-matchmaker approved ways to find queer-positive love offline, IRL

First comes love, then comes…TBD depending on the year you met, says new survey

April 05, 2019 at 07:03AM by CWC Ever feel just not on the same page as your your parents or adult children when it comes to beliefs about relationship progression? Having to “break the news” of plans to cohabitate with an S.O. to parents who would rather their kiddo be “married and settled down” is … Continue reading First comes love, then comes…TBD depending on the year you met, says new survey

It’s totally normal that you can’t move on from an ex—even if you don’t want to be together

February 22, 2019 at 03:00AM by CWC Sometimes I feel as if I’m always trying to get over an ex, no matter how grandiosely responsible they were for the relationship’s demise. I’ve lost sleep over the attention I pay to these formerly significant people in my life, wrestling with the question: Is it normal to still … Continue reading It’s totally normal that you can’t move on from an ex—even if you don’t want to be together

How to drop news that you have an S.O. without it detonating like a bomb of awkwardness

February 04, 2019 at 11:35AM by CWC Okay, let’s say you’re at a bar, harmlessly engaging in some small-talk, and all of a sudden, things feel…flirty. Or so you think. Could it be that your conversation companion is simply being friendly and that you’re reading into the situation? Regardless, you feel compelled to casually drop … Continue reading How to drop news that you have an S.O. without it detonating like a bomb of awkwardness